5 times a second, your brain is scanning the environment around you and asking itself, “is it safe? or is it dangerous?” this is happening subconsciously all day everyday.
in a traumatized brain state, the fear-center is over-active and over-extends itself, which makes it more likely to default to “its dangerous”, assume the worse, and create adverserial relationships.
the ability to “read the room” is partly about reading a person’s capacity to listen which really depends on reading one’s own capacity to pay attention. without this initial read, the chance for misunderstandings increases, which can be costly especially with strong emotions and high stakes situations.
when listening is deep enough the problem solves itself. creating the conditions where listening can flourish is a superpower and it starts with paying attention and establishing safety and clarity within one’s own being, and in turn that vibe can be amplified with others.
Arya Salehi helps individuals discover their authentic selves so that they can be at their best and build awesome relationships.
Author of Panic in the Soup and host of the Bee Now podcast, Arya is a seasoned coach and facilitator. You can catch him cycling on dirt trails at sunset in Roseville, California.